Well, I'm afraid to say that, as romantic as Manhattan may seem, the reality of being a single girl in this city is harsh. Carrie and co cruelly had us believe that all it took to get a date was flashing a smile at a chap in a bar or kicking your Manolos out of a cab as a dashing millionaire strode past. I love SATC as much as the next girl (that's an understatement; I can recite every episode word for word), but it takes more than that to find love in the Big Apple.
The first thing you need to know about being a singleton in New York is that women waaaay outnumber men. I think the last ratio count was 5-1 in favour of us girls. Secondly, everyone Multiple Dates. That is, having two, three or even four or five people on the go and not giving it a second thought. I actually wrote all about the pitfalls and merits of Multiple Dating in my latest Ask Men column... http://uk.askmen.com/dating/heidi/casual-dating.html
You see, dating here is a business. People know what they're looking for, they go for it and very rarely settle for less. Why should they? New Yorkers are conditioned to believe in the American Dream; that anything is possible and nothing is out of reach. Dating included.
Consequently, being a single man in New York is fantastic. You have a wealth of women from which to choose, they are all confident and you can feasibly shag around without the guilt factor. Pretty great, huh? Not so great if you're a single woman. Many of my British female friends have given up on the NY dating scene altogether, figuring it's too brutal and time-consuming. They long for the mystique of British dating - and British men.
So, girls, take note. As wonderful and magical as New York is, being single in the city is no dream come true.
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